The Reflection We Cast: Reconciling Perception and Reality

How others see us and how we see ourselves are often very different. For women entrepreneurs over forty, our experience is shaped by our internal struggles, quiet sacrifices, and the daily work of building a business. This difference in perspective shapes both how we move forward and how we are perceived.

Others often see something different. They notice our strength, resilience, and achievements. We might feel like we are still figuring things out. Still, clients and peers see someone who builds a business with strong values and purpose.

I realized this difference during a recent talk with a trusted advisor. She has played a big role in my career. I thanked her for her support, especially her advice on helping other military veterans grow their businesses.

Her response surprised me and changed how I think. She told me she prefers to be called a “guide” instead of a “mentor.” To her, “mentor” sounds too formal and suggests a hierarchy she does not want.

The Weight of a Title

To see why this matters, think about the different roles people have in our lives.

Mentor Versus Guide

A mentor usually shares lessons from their own experience and helps you move up. A guide walks with you, helping you find your own path and answers.

Both roles are important for long-term business success. According to SCORE (an SBA partner) and The UPS Store, 70 percent of mentored businesses last more than five years. That is twice the rate of businesses without mentoring.

This data shows why I am so grateful for her support. As a retired Marine Corps Gunnery Sergeant, I know how hard it is for veterans to move from military life to starting a business. We are trained to complete missions, but business requires a whole new set of skills.

Navigating Business Growth

That is why having a reliable guide helps veterans move from military service to success in civilian life.

The Veteran Transition

Guides help veterans and driven women use their leadership skills to build rewarding and successful businesses. They do not solve our problems for us, but they help us see what is ahead.

Recognizing the value of these individuals makes us reflect on ourselves. Ask yourself how your community, clients, and family see your role. You may see yourself as just a business owner managing tasks. To someone else, you are the guide they need for a breakthrough.

Who Are You to Others?

Acknowledging how others see us allows growth. This requires embracing our role as perceived guides or leaders, even when we doubt ourselves.

Choosing to Make The Shift

This year is about building a strong mindset and making the shift. We must close the gap between our doubts and the strength others see in us.

When we accept that others see us as leaders, mentors, and guides, we step into our true purpose. Whether you prefer to be called a mentor or a guide, your impact is important. Your experience lights the way for new business owners.

Now is a good time to thank those who helped us along the way. Think about the people who supported you in your business journey. Send a quick thank you to your mentors or guides for their support and wisdom. Be blessed.